3 Mistakes You Should Avoid for a Tax-Smart Divorce

Among the many things to think about during a divorce, taxes often slip through the cracks. Discover three common tax mistakes to avoid as you approach divorce proceedings.

Divorce is expensive – it can cost you significant time, energy, emotional stress and, of course, legal fees. While transferring assets between spouses as a result of divorce does not generally result in taxes due, repositioning assets to create cash flow and a strategy to align with your individual goals can be a different story.

Being prepared during settlement negotiations is key to minimizing how much the IRS ultimately takes. Avoiding the following three mistakes can enable you to be smart and proactive about your taxes, to help reduce Uncle Sam’s cut without  needing to become a tax expert.

1. Don’t get tripped up by “taxbergs”

First, a pro tip: it pays to focus not just on the value of the assets you’re dividing, but also on the true cash implications of this split, now and in the future. 

Remember the Titanic? What looked barely visible on the surface hid a lot of danger underneath. That’s exactly the case with many assets that appear “equal” on the surface. But some of them are big, silent icebergs that pack a mean punch when tax time comes.

Here are a couple of examples to illustrate this point:

The Smiths, John and Jane, have a traditional IRA and a Roth IRA, each with a balance of $100,000. For simplicity, John was going to take the IRA in the divorce settlement, and Jane would take the Roth IRA. Looks equal, right?

In fact, these assets are not equal at all. The traditional IRA holds money that has never been taxed and, as such, hides plenty of unpaid taxes under the surface. When it comes time to withdraw, the person with the traditional IRA could pay taxes as high as 37% (or whatever the rate at which their next dollar of ordinary income gets taxed). Translation: as much as $37,000 goes to the IRS – and they’ll keep about 63 cents for every dollar they got in the divorce.

On the other hand, the Roth IRA has already paid its dues and has been given the “all-clear” for tax purposes. So, the lucky recipient of the Roth IRA gets a full dollar for every dollar they got in the split. Which would you rather get?

Let’s look at another common example. Instead of IRAs, we’ll say that John and Jane have two holdings of the same stock, each currently worth $100,000. “Should be about equal,” anyone might think, but that might not be the case at all.

One share was bought when the price was low, and the stock cost only $45,000. The second share was bought much later, for $90,000. When the stocks are sold, the first sale gets a tax bill of $11,000 – assuming the profit of $55,000 is taxed at a 20% capital gains tax rate. The holder of the first lot keeps $89,000 after taxes. Meanwhile, the second sale gets away lightly, because the tax bill is only $2,000 on $10,000 profit. The holder of the second lot keeps substantially more: $98,000.

Moral of the story: when splitting assets, avoid a Titanic mistake by ensuring you don’t get tripped up by an “equal” division – look for the “taxberg,” a.k.a. the tax iceberg hiding under every asset!

2. Don’t be humble – take “credit” where it’s due

Are kids part of your divorce equation? If yes, you should think about not only the credit for being a great parent, but also about the “credits” you may be entitled to from Uncle Sam.

First, a little history lesson to give you some context. Before 2018, when the new U.S. tax law went into effect, one parent could claim a “dependency exemption” of about $4,000 per child. This exemption reduced the amount of their taxable income.

In a divorce, the person eligible to claim the dependency exemption is generally the “custodial parent” as the IRS defines it – i.e., the parent with whom the child spent more overnights. If the child split their nights equally, the custodial parent is the one making more money.

The 2018 tax law, which remains in effect despite lobbying to return to pre-2018 policy, “zeroed out” the amount of that exemption. Though the dependency exemption is $0 towards your taxes today, it may still provide value now and in the future, given that the custodial parent holds the keys to all other child-related tax benefits, provided their income isn’t too high to qualify. This includes the child-tax credit, educational credit, earned income credit, and child-care credit.

If you expect to make significantly less money post-divorce, carefully consider parental responsibilities and (if reinstated in the future) the dependency exemption, to be sure you make the right child-related decisions in divorce, so they don’t come back to bite you later.

3. Don’t forget tax benefits from your marriage

  • Do you have a tax refund coming? Ensure the refund is put on the table as part of your settlement negotiations.
  • Are you or your spouse involved in a business or have losses from selling stocks or other investments? If so, you may have some “loss carry forwards.” These are prior-year losses that the IRS allows you to use to reduce future taxable income, and your future tax bill.

In the heat of divorce negotiations, it’s easy to forget these amounts and let them slip. Be sure to track prior-year returns to identify any carry forwards and include them in your settlement negotiations.  

One last caution: while still married, be careful signing joint returns – if you do, the IRS could demand any underpayment of taxes from you, even if your divorce has been finalized. If in doubt, consult with a tax professional and you may consider filing your taxes as “married filing separately,” or insist on a tax indemnification agreement to protect yourself. 

What to do next

Getting a head start on these potentially big opportunities doesn’t need to be hard: 

  • Consider the tax impacts of all assets to be split in your settlement – make sure the after-tax numbers are what get counted in the decision
  • Think about the implications of making child-related tax decisions
  • Comb through prior-year returns to ensure you’re not missing out on credit for loss carry forwards
  • Be careful signing joint tax returns when going through divorce – always protect yourself first

Better still, hire a smart team, including an experienced divorce financial professional and attorney, to help you get you the most bang for your tax buck, so you can focus on truly enjoying the next chapter of your post-divorce life. Reach out to a Corient Wealth Advisor today to get started.


ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Heather Locus

Heather Locus

Partner

Heather is a Partner, Wealth Advisor in our Itasca, IL, office. Heather founded the Women’s Service Team and leads the Divorce Practice Group. She loves solving complex problems by balancing financial and emotional components with tax and legal issues. Heather educates on transitioning through new phases of life with confidence and clarity. She authored The Next Chapter: A Practical Roadmap for Navigating Through, and Beyond, Divorce, and you can read her latest divorce tips at Forbes.com. Heather joined legacy firm BDF in 1998 and soon became one of the first non-founding Partners of the firm.




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